Building Self-Confidence

建立自信的五大心法 You can become a more confident person. 你可以成為更有自信的人by Pamela Osment

How do you enter a room full of strangers? Do you walk right in full of confidence ? Or do you try to slip in without being noticed? The way you go into new situations shows your level of self-confidence.

In life, we admire those who do their tasks confidently. We prefer people who appear to know what they're doing. But where does that confidence begin?

The parent's role
Developing self-confidence starts very early. It's the parents' role to get kids on the right track toward becoming confident people. To help that process, parents should always offer more praise than criticism. That can be done by focusing on the child's strengths. Parents should encourage their children to try new things and take risks. When children make mistakes, their parents should still let them know that they are loved. Children whose parents do these things will likely develop into confident adults. But self-confidence still doesn't come easily. So what's the solution? With most things in life, practice makes perfect, and that is true of confidence skills. The more you practice them, the easier they will become.

Body language
Always hold your head high and look people in the eye. Answer questions clearly and confidently. The way you walk shows others how confident you are.

Strengths and talents
Focus on the things that you do well, and look for opportunities to use those abilities.

Visual encouragement
Keep an item in clear view that reminds you of a recent success. It could be a good test score or a prize from a contest. Remind yourself that one success often leads to the next.

Good preparation
Prepare thoroughly for every project. You'll approach the task more confidently knowing that you're ready.

Mistakes
All humans fail at times, and you will too. But don't allow mistakes to trouble you. Learning from mistakes helps you face the same situation later without fear. Even with practice, you will never be perfect. But you can learn to love and accept yourself and live your life with confidence.

More Information
Here are three simple steps for building self-confidence. First, set goals: make goals realistic and attainable - to maximize feelings of success. Next, imagine yourself- or visualize-performing your tasks and activities perfectly to maximize the potential of success. Finally, use verbal encouragement and positive self-talk. By verbally encouraging yourself (e.g. with phrases such as, "I'm doing really well today!"), you'll reinforce feelings of self-confidence.


Grammar
....practice makes perfect and that is true of confidence skills.
practice makes perfect......confidence skills
"that is true of"
to point out that how something is good example of something what we just mention.
*Trust is an important part of a good relationship, and that is true of successful business relationships.
*People should be quick to listen and slow to speak, and that is true of conflict management.

Vocabulary Tips
slip in-悄悄的進去，溜進去 slip-快速的移動。。doing on something slowly and quietly or quickly without being noticed.
slipped/slipping -
*Sandra slipped in the meeting without anyone noticing that she was late.
slip out-悄悄的溜出去。
*Jay quietly slipped out of class and went home.
on the right track-在對的軌道上。即方向正確。track-路徑， 軌道。
*I discussed my thesis with my professor to make sure it is on the right track.
*Even though we haven't solved the problem yet, we're sure we're on the right track.
risk(v)-冒險 risk (n)-此是（名詞）風險，危險。
*There's a high risk of getting computer viruses if you don't use any antivirus software.中毒，得到病毒。。。防毒軟體。
*Don't take a risk by downloading unknown software of games.
walk right in- "right" -doing quickly , directly and immediately.
admire-can be admire a person or person's character or quality.
criticism-opposite of praise, being find something wrong of someone or something.
opportunity-機會
*The receiver dropped the ball and missed a golden opportunity to score. 得分的大好時機。
*The company gave me the opportunity to transfer to Japan but I didn't accept it.
visual- 視覺的，可以看見的。"vis" -有“看見”的意思。
*Geoffrey uses a lot of visual aids in his teaching. 視覺教具。
*The movie's visual effects were made by top professionals.頂尖的專業人員。
thoroughly (adv)-徹底地，非常仔細地 thorough (adj)-徹底的，非常仔細的
*Make sure you check your report thoroughly before you turn it in.
*A thorough inspection of the security system.

Chat Room
self-discipline=自律，自我訓練。discipline-紀律。
self-esteem=自尊
self-respect=自重
self-critical= 自我批評，苛責自己。critical-批判，苛責的
self-confidence=自信。
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look-看,(及物動詞)
look people in the eye-看著對方的眼睛,正視某人.
"look at people in the eye" is wrong. it should be "look people in the eye"
"eye" is singular form.要用單數。
look someone up and down-judging people by out appearance.上下打量某人。
look no further-不用再尋找了，即指“答案就在眼前”。
"Look who's here"- 看，是誰來了！表示歡迎及類似打招呼。
當某人（重量級或是要人，主角）出現在某場合時，你可以說:"Well, look who's here"

Chinese saying: "failure is a mother of success" :)